Awhile back I mentioned on my Instagram page that I had participated in a Family Constellations workshop and that it had effected me in a profound way. Somehow, it shifted something within me about my miscarriages, the loss of Luna and how they’ve shaped on my motherhood. I haven’t written further about it, because what …
I find myself missing my parents a lot right now. There’s something about a crisis that heightens the feelings of their loss in my life. I’m craving the sound of their reassuring voices, especially my dad’s. I feel slightly adrift, but it’s a familiar feeling that’s always there, somewhere inside me. If I sit quietly …
We had another big death discussion a couple of weeks ago and it got me thinking about the things that Benjamin has asked or said about death over the last 3 years and how his understanding is growing and changing. I thought it may be helpful to others to see what sorts of things he …
It would have been my parents 43rd wedding anniversary yesterday (14th August). My mum wrote, on what would have been their 30th anniversary, in her own blog 13 years ago. Here’s what she had to say. Bear in mind that she had just finished her own treatment for breast cancer only a few months previously: …
It’s been awhile since my last confession – I mean, post. Freudian slip there! Well, not really. I suppose these posts are like confessions. They’re certainly the truth, at least as I see/feel it at the time of writing. I haven’t posted on here in a while for a few reasons. Work has gotten in …
When it comes to miscarriage and baby loss, ‘normal’ takes on some very different forms and unexpected turns. I was taking a look at old photo’s the other day and I came across the ones taken nearly three years ago while we were in Canada for my brother’s wedding. There’s some lovely photo’s and I …
My mum’s blog has been pulling me to it again in the last few weeks. I haven’t sat down to look at it until this afternoon though. I’m learning to listen to these ‘pulls’. I go through her book (I turned her blog into a book) and take my time. Sometimes I know within a …
For a five year old, Benjamin is pretty clued up about death and grief. Just over two years ago, his baby sister, Luna, died. Since that moment – actually, even before we knew she was definitely going to die, he was a part of the story. Both of my parents have died, Dad when I …
What does this mean? What shape does it take? What are our ideas of it before we attain it? How does it change once we have? Are you only a mother to living children? These are some of the questions I ask of myself, quite a lot! Some I have found answers to, others are …
I was browsing my mum’s blog again and found this entry, it feels very apt at the moment. I also had a dream last night about a necklace of hers, I put it on as soon as I got out of bed this morning. I suppose I’m feeling her presence more closely at the moment …